The 5 Love Languages
A lot of people may have heard of Gary Chapman’s 5 love languages, (and if you haven’t) – A book that describes that every person has a different type of language that they both communicate and receive love in. The book has been an eye opener for relationships and individuals to better know and communicate with yourself and your partner. You may not be translating your partner correctly and they might not be interpreting you accurately either.
It isn’t necessarily a “you’re from Mars and you’re from Venus” kind of thing, but rather that we all show how we feel in different ways, so it stands to reason that we interpret Love, affection and intimacy needs differently too.
A simplified example; you may be feeling unloved when your partner is never around but they don’t understand how you could feel that way when they constantly leave you little gifts and send you flowers. The problem here is that your love language is quality time, and theirs’ is gifts. Knowing yours and your partner’s love language is a quick way to hack and improve your communication within your relationship and a key to understanding each other.
Learning About Love
Whoa, slow down! If you don’t know your love language and this is your first time hearing about it I can help. Gary Chaplin has devised a test that can be accessed regardless of whether you have read his book.
The great thing about this quiz is that it can show you how to better communicate with your partner, and better know what you need as an individual.
Even knowing your Love Language though, sometimes it can be tough to know what that looks like in action. I am going to briefly breakdown the five love languages and demonstrate how to translate and use them in the bedroom during sex or intimacy.
Physical Touch
This may seem a given during physical intimacy but the type of touch we give our partners is critical to them feeling affection/love. Make a show of caressing them, make your touch intentional this could be anything from stroking their hair, to restraining their wrists with yours. another great example is cuddling during aftercare
Words of Affirmation
Many people like to hear words to reinforce how a person feels about them. Others not so much, and that’s ok, we’re all different. If your partner’s love language is Words be vocal during intimacy and sex. Not just I love you, but words such as “it feels so good when you. _____” or “You are so sexy/handsome/beautiful/hot/long/thick” making noise as well, reassures your partner that you’re having a good time and it may be the key to them feeling loved/validated during sex.
Quality Time
Being present in the moment, making eye contact, showing your partner that you are there and only thinking about them, not thinking about who will pick the kids up, or what to have for dinner, or that conversation with that person from work earlier that day. Slow down with them, take your time to show them you are there and being with them matters. make suggestions about spending this intimate and sexy time with them “How about you and me spend some time later doing X/Y/Z” or tell them that you can’t wait to spend that time together-but make sure you follow through on what you say.
Acts of Service
Acts of service relates to doing things for your partner. In the bedroom this could be devoting an entire session to their pleasure, it could be trying something you know they’ve been wanting to, or simply prioritizing your sex life, planning a steamy date night, organizing a baby sitter for some alone time, taking charge of them, or offering yourself in submission for a session, lighting their favourite candle because it gets them in the mood. as always though, only do acts that you’re comfortable with.
Receiving Gifts
Gift giving and receiving seems simple but there is a little more to it. Gifts should be thoughtful and individual. Here at OhZone we have many wonderful gifts, toys and selection to meet every need, fantasy and occasion. Whether a vibrator, a massager, bondage or lingerie, Massage oil to give your special someone a massage or toys like our WeVibe Chorus that can be used together. Just a little something to let them know that you thought of them and thought of what you could “do” together is a wonderful way to meet this need.
Come in and chat with our experts at the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres and see what we can show you today.
Ultimate Displays Of Love
Love is a great feeling, especially if it’s reciprocated by your significant other. For years, people have displayed fondness through hugs and kisses. However, love means much more than just hugging and kissing in public. Read on to learn the ultimate displays of love.
•Make a favorite meal
There is nothing better than showing affection to your lover through a meal. Discovering your significant other’s meal and taking time to prepare it would make the best communication of your love for them. Cooking is not only for women. A man can also take time to surprise his woman with a delicious homemade meal. It’s actually very sexy when a man is dressed in an apron and doing his thing in the kitchen. It would drive his woman crazy. It also doesn’t have to be your lover’s favorite meal. You can experiment with new dishes and surprise your partner. You’d be surprised how they would appreciate a unique dish prepared by their most precious person.
•Help with the children
Most men think that the ‘dirty’ work of playing with kids should be solely performed by women. On the contrary, a man who helps his woman with the kids shows a lot of love and affection. If you’re a dad and want to tell your woman you love her more than anything, play with the kids as she rests. You can even allow her to go for some manicure as you watch the babies. Besides, it also lets you bond with the kids. The bond you get with your babies is incomparable to anything in this world.
•Initiate sex
Nothing would make your partner feel wanted and loved like initiating more sex. It feels terrible when he or she feels like you have sex with them because they have forced it. Besides, sex helps with bonding and a love chemical is produced during the act.
•Share your dreams
Your partner feels loved and valued if you consistently share your dreams and future with them. It not only strengthens your bond but also makes your lover feel included in your future plans. The sharing of thoughts and visions would be even better if you mention your partner as part of the dream.
•Help them realize their goals
Your lover would appreciate it if you want to know what they want to achieve and also helping them get there. You don’t have to do much financially but instead could help with research. You should also always keep asking your partner about the progress of the different projects.
•Show interest in what they love
If you want to show your lover appreciation and affection, keep asking them about the things they love. They’d appreciate you took time to understand what they’re doing. Make sure to keenly listen and remember what you’re told. If your lover enjoys playing a particular sport, make sure to join her once in a while. If they’re part of a tournament, show up and be the best cheerleader.
•Love their friends and family
If you want to communicate love to your significant other, don’t criticize their friends and relatives. Look for chances where you could join family dinners and dates with friends. The act not only shows love but also, makes them feel you value their family and choice of friends.
•Create time for them
Make your partner feel as though they’re your first priority. Don’t cancel out on meetings and also arrive on time. During dates, put your phone away and give full attention to your lover. Call them often and be sure to pick their calls and respond to messages promptly. There’s nothing as irritating like feeling as though your partner doesn’t value your time together.
•Help with house chores
Don’t let your wife or girlfriend get overwhelmed with house chores in the evening while you rest. Join in and help out where you can. Take advantage of the moments to express your love. You can even incorporate jokes or fun games as you go about housework. In the end, it will be fun and will communicate love to your partner.
Love doesn’t have to be about money. It’s the small things that matter. Ensure you create time for your lover, help where you can, love their friends and relatives, help with the kids, and help them achieve their goals. Most importantly, have plenty of sex with your lover.
