Your First Dildo – Better To Know Before Buying
Buying your first dildo is a personal and exciting step. Focus on comfort, body-safe materials, and the right size. For beginners, silicone, glass, or stainless steel dildos are safest and easiest to clean. Avoid cheap, porous materials like jelly or rubber. Start with a medium size and use plenty of water-based lube for a smooth, pleasurable experience.
Buying your first dildo can be overwhelming—but also empowering. With so many shapes, sizes, and materials to choose from, understanding what works best for your body is key. This guide simplifies your decision and helps you find the perfect first toy with confidence and safety in mind.
Table of Contents
- Hitting a Certain Spot With Your First Dildo
- What Material to Look For In Your First Dildo
- Choosing Your First Dildo: Avoiding Common Mistakes
- FAQs About Your First Dildo
Hitting a Certain Spot With Your First Dildo
Dildos stimulate targeted spots, both internal and external. A curved dildo hits the G-spot beautifully, while straighter ones are great for gentle penetration or external play. Some are curved at the tip, others in the middle—each style enhances different sensations.
For many first-time users, understanding your body’s response is part of the fun. The G-spot, located a few centimeters inside the vagina toward the belly, responds best to firm, rhythmic pressure rather than quick thrusting. Experiment slowly—alternate between shallow and deeper strokes, adjust your angle, and pay attention to how your body reacts. If you’re exploring anal or prostate play, a curved dildo designed for that purpose can help you safely reach and stimulate those areas with precision. Remember, pleasure isn’t about technique alone—it’s about listening to what feels right for you.
Solo or Partner Use
If using your first dildo solo, choose one that’s easy to hold or has a reliable suction base for hands-free fun. For partner play, think about dynamics—who’s penetrating whom, and how you’ll use it together. Dildos with harness compatibility are great for strap-on play. Remember, pleasure is mutual exploration.
Consider the Size
Resist the urge to go too big your first time. Massive dildos need experience and plenty of lube. Start with something around four inches long and one inch in diameter—it’s comfortable yet satisfying. For anal use, go smaller and slimmer until you’re more confident. Always use a generous amount of water-based lube for a safe, enjoyable experience.
What Material to Look For In Your First Dildo
The material of your first dildo determines how it feels, how safe it is, and how easy it is to clean. Let’s explore what makes each material unique.
When buying your first dildo, always prioritize body-safe materials. The wrong material can cause irritation, harbor bacteria, or degrade over time. Non-porous materials like medical-grade silicone, glass, and stainless steel are ideal—they’re smooth, hygienic, and can be sterilized easily. Porous materials like jelly or rubber may seem soft and tempting but can trap moisture and bacteria, making them unsafe for repeated use. Think of the material as the foundation of your experience—it influences comfort, durability, and long-term enjoyment.
If you’re not sure where to start, silicone is a safe, all-around choice. It’s soft, flexible, and mimics the warmth of skin. Glass and metal offer more intensity and temperature play, perfect for when you’re ready to explore. Always check that the toy is labeled “body-safe” and comes from a trusted retailer like Adultsmart—because your pleasure deserves nothing less than quality and care.
Silicone
Silicone is body-safe, hypoallergenic, and durable. It feels soft yet firm—perfect for realistic sensations. It’s non-porous, meaning bacteria can’t hide inside. Just remember: use water-based lube only. As Cassandra Smith, an Adultsmart wellness writer, shares: “My first dildo was silicone, and I loved how it adapted to my movements without feeling too stiff or too soft.”
TPR/TPE
These materials mimic real skin and feel ultra-soft but are porous. Clean them well and use a condom for extra safety. They’re affordable and great for testing what you like before investing in premium toys.
Glass
Glass dildos are smooth, artistic, and perfect for temperature play. They’re non-porous, easy to clean, and compatible with all lubes. Warm or chill them for unique sensations—it’s a simple but sensual upgrade to your playtime.
Metal
Metal dildos are sleek, heavy, and deliver deep, targeted pleasure. They hold temperature beautifully—warm for comfort or cool for a thrilling edge. Made from medical-grade steel or aluminum, they’re among the most hygienic and long-lasting toys you can own.
Choosing Your First Dildo: Avoiding Common Mistakes
Many beginners buy the cheapest toy they see—but that often means poor materials and short lifespan. Always prioritize body-safe materials over price. A quality dildo protects your health and gives better sensations.
Think about shape and flexibility too. A medium size with gentle curves is a perfect beginner choice. Avoid overly large or rigid toys until you’re comfortable with penetration. Read reviews, explore trusted brands, and don’t rush—your first dildo should feel exciting, not intimidating.
FAQs About Your First Dildo
What should I consider when choosing my first dildo?
Choose based on material, size, and shape. Opt for body-safe options like silicone, glass, or steel. Start medium-sized and smooth for comfort.
Is it safe to buy a cheap dildo?
Not always. Cheap dildos can contain harmful chemicals. If on a budget, buy affordable silicone toys from reputable brands instead.
What type of lube should I use?
Use water-based lube for silicone toys. For glass or metal dildos, all lube types—water, oil, or silicone—are safe.
How do I clean and care for my dildo?
Wash with warm water and mild soap after every use. Non-porous toys can be boiled or dishwashed for deep cleaning. For porous toys, always use condoms for safety.
How do I know if a dildo is body-safe?
Look for toys made from medical-grade silicone, borosilicate glass, or stainless steel. Avoid those labeled as jelly or rubber—they often contain phthalates.
Embrace Your Pleasure Journey
Your first dildo isn’t just a toy—it’s your introduction to body awareness and self-pleasure. Take your time, experiment safely, and choose what makes you feel good. Every body is different, and finding your rhythm is part of the joy. Start small, stay curious, and let pleasure become a form of confidence and connection.
